Second day without Facebook and I have decided to document some of the changes going on in my life.
Keeping in touch
Technically, I did post yesterday, but it was only the link to this blog and to announce that I was leaving Facebook. I immediately got comments like “I don’t believe you are leaving. You’ll be back.” I did get some messages directly from some friends. One buddy of mine, whom I know in real life as well, sent me his updated contact information so we can stay in touch via phone or text, which I will definitely be doing. He isn’t on it much these days himself, since he cruises around the country in an RV, and seems to be happier being a nomad and catching fish most days.
Other than a couple people messaging me to persuade me from leaving Facebook, my phone was relatively quiet all night. And by quiet, I mean it seems like I’m already off the grid.
Where everybody knows your name…
A couple others pleaded me to stay. In a weird way, I was right about the bar scene theory. It was nice to be missed, but at this point, I know that Facebook isn’t good for me. For a while it was my only social outlet. When I was married, my contact with people outside the home was extremely limited, but with Facebook, I could talk to people all around the world, uninhibited. It gave me perspective and showed me that my life wasn’t exactly happy. Especially after LiveJournal was bought by the Russians and everyone left it like rats from a sinking ship. But things are different now. I am different. I don’t need it.
Like someone trying to kick cigarettes, I have found myself automatically typing the URL address for Facebook in my browser. Since I’m logged out, it just brings me to the login page and my routine comes to a screeching halt. It’s the fixation, just like a smoker who keeps putting pens in their mouth, or keeps reaching for their lighter, even when it’s not there. My substitution has been Instagram, but it doesn’t have the same hold on my mind as Facebook, so I don’t linger on it. Sometimes I will see a pretty vacation site and it will inspire me to get off my butt and get some writing in.
The other things I do to keep busy
A good substitute for clicking on the dopamine drip button known as social media has been writing. Which luckily for me, I am already a writer, so win-win! Yesterday, I wrote five paid blogs, a blog here on my personal site, and I finished a chapter in the book. I also did ten miles on the bike at the gym and got 10,000 steps in. And I watched the Justice League movie on HBO. And I read the entire Book of Esther in my continuing advance through the Bible. Because I am told, it’s like any other book and should be read cover to cover. Next up is a book about a guy named Job. So far, he has lots of sheep and camels and children, just chillin’ in the town of Uz. Sounds like things are looking up for my boy Job!